Today, I want to talk about relationships. I have a girlfriend who is married to a man. When I first met him, all he talked about was her. At first, I couldn’t figure out why he would let me know so much. He would tell me all about what he gave her, what he bought for her and so on.
This was a few months ago when he first introduced himself to me. At the time, he shared all these wonderful stories about how much he appreciated my friend and how he was doing his best to hold on to the best thing that ever happened to him. You know, he would talk about all the good things that were happening in their lives.
But recently, my friend called me and we had a talk. She told me about how sometimes her boyfriend doesn’t come home. She shared all about how he blows his paycheck, how he physically abuses her and claims that he doesn’t remember. She talked about how he gets high off of anything and everything. It’s truly sad when you got in your mind that you met someone so special and they turn out to be nothing but a user and a manipulator.
Sometimes, I feel like that too. I’m out here breaking my back trying to keep up with life and yet all my partner does is play games with me too. Manipulation is a you know what. And sometimes I think it’s been like that from the beginning. I’m sitting here struggling, when I should be taking care of my health but all I think about is taking care of him. Making sure that he’s alright.
It’s stupid because if he cared about me, he would be working a real job. Not nothing just to get you a bag or a few dollars in your pocket. We have bills and he doesn’t seem to understand that. Oh, but he understands, he just doesn’t give a damn. The man has been out of a job going on three years. He doesn’t have a social security card or ID. Now, who do you know that goes that long without an ID? How are you going to get a job? He plays a lot of mind games with me. But I’m telling you, I’m really getting fed up with this mess.
Here’s some advice for you all who are thinking about getting involved with a man. First of all, never settle for less. Don’t put up with anything you can’t handle. Get to know your partner’s mom. Make sure she’s not just throwing him on you because she’s tired of taking care of him.
Don’t rush into anything. Don’t let him talk you into something you really are not ready for. See if he’s a liar, and what kinds of things he lies about. Never put all your trust into anyone but God.
And first and foremost, make sure you love yourself. If you can’t do that, you will fall for anything.
Look men, I’m not saying that all men are like this. Because there are some women that will use and abuse and take total advantage of men as well. So these tips can also apply to you as well.
I hope by sharing my experience, I can help someone open up their eyes and try to release themselves from something that is not for you. Because no one deserves to be mistreated by anyone. If they can’t love you for who you are, and help you benefit from this relationship then you are wasting precious time. Why be with someone that is only going to gain from you? That is not a stable relationship.
I’ll say it again because it’s important. Love yourself. If you don’t, you really have to learn to. Remember, no one is perfect. But one thing I know, I know how to take care of myself. And I really don’t need any man or woman to hold me back from doing so. So like I say, if you are not benefiting from your relationship in any form or fashion, you should do something about it. You really don’t have to let go, but say something, talk about it. But after that, let it go. And move on.
