I’m learning healthy boundaries today. Starting with learning how to say no and mean it. I’m the type of person who likes to please everyone. I now know that it is okay to say no. You don’t have to save the world to be a good person. Sometimes you have to say no and wish people the best. I’m learning that if you give everything away of yours then what are you going to have for yourself?
Unhealthy boundaries involve a disregard for your own and others’ values, wants and needs. It can also lead to potentially abusive romantic relationships, and increase the chances of other types of abusive relationships. Not saying no, or not respecting when others say no, is not okay. So I say this — hold on to your feelings and understand that you always come first.
