Although living in denial may be necessary for a time for some, I have to make a decision to move beyond denial. This does not mean I will stop grieving altogether, for my healing grieving process has only just begun. I have to remember if I spend too much denying my loss, I would be unable to move forward with life.
Every woman that finally figures out her worth has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.
Unless you heal your past, your life patterns and relationships will continue to be the same, it’s just the faces that change stages of the battered women.
Denial
The woman refuses to admit even to herself that she has been beaten on, that there is a problem in the relationship. Even may call it an incident or accident. She offers excuses for the person who is abusing her and, each time, family and friends believe it will never happen again.
Guilt
That there is a problem and she considers herself responsible for it.
Enlightenment
The woman no longer assumes responsibility for abuser treatment, recognizing that no one deserves to be beaten.
Responsibility
Accepting that the abuser will not change or stop. She decides she will no longer submit to it and starts a new life.
